Love is blind but not stupid

People in blind love throw away common sense, conscience, and comedy from life, Amit Kalantri.

Before problems arise and a relationship goes too far, it is important to be rational and weigh up the relationship, its pros and cons, and see if you think it's worth the trouble. What makes a relationship worth it for you? What matters most?

This is even more important in a society where breaking up is so easy to do and mate switching has become so generalized as to be the norm, not the exception. Many women compare their partner’s mate value with that of other men, and weight up the costs imposed by partners who behave different from expected, become sick or jobless, or fail to provide.

If you are on vacation in an exotic place like Hawaii, Australia, or the Caribbean, but you both live in two cities 300 kilometers apart, it will be very difficult, if not impossible, to maintain that relationship. Think it hard because it may be desirable to stop a relationship before things go too far -the distance between both of you is a very objective problem.

Long distance relationships can be really tough. They face many problems, such as lack of physical intimacy and communication, hectic schedules, or differences of time zones. They cost money, time, and take a lot of effort and commitment, so they are extremely hard to work through and in many cases they just don’t work.

Besides, online dating scams are nothing new, but they are growing in popularity thanks to the rise of online dating. Typically, the conversation quickly turns very romantic (they make soul mate claims very early and say I love you very quickly), they ask a lot of questions about you but don’t give much real information about them, and maybe they avoid video calls, have no presence anywhere online, and want to move your conversation off the dating site or app very quickly.

The same consideration can be made about relationships where someone works in a distant city, both partners have different religious beliefs or come from different cultural backgrounds, or one of you has serious health problems.

For instance, a Muslim man is allowed to marry a Christian woman, but a Jewish or a Christian man is not permitted to marry a Muslim woman. The lack of support from both families will fill up the relationship with conflict, misunderstanding, and friction. There are fewer common grounds and many problems, e.g., how to raise your children, what to do on important holy days, who will go to services and how often. However, love conquers all, you can have different perspectives on faith and still create a fulfilling life together.