Accept your partner for who they are

I am what I am. What you see is what you get, nothing more, nothing less. Do not choose only one part, take me as I am, whole and such as I am, so you do not make any mistakes along the way. If I am honest, I am not much, but who I am I give to you, Anawim, #justtothepoint, inspired by Joan Manuel Serrat.

Before you take an important decision and make a life-changing commitment, e.g., getting married, living together, having kids, or asking for a loan…

• Take your time and get to know the boy or girl of your dreams, there is no need and no reason to rush. Never rush into a relationship, it can lead to disaster and pain. It is better to be safe than sorry, take it slow, and let it grow.
• You should really know him/her very well. You need time to be with your partner through many moments, circumstances, and situations, the more the better.
• It is crucial to talk openly and honestly with your partner. You should both discuss sensitive and important topics, such as money (e.g. Who and how the money will be managed, Should you merge your finances or keep them separate), domestic responsibilities, private and public spaces, kids (e.g. Do you want to have children?, How many kids?), or family (e.g., How will you care for your aging parents?, How much time will you share with your extended family), and agree on all key aspects of the relationship.
• Think carefully, consider and meditate hard because there is a lot at stake. Do not fool yourself into believing that he or she will be different, better, or you will make him/her change - This is a recipe for disaster.

It’s beautiful when someone can accept me for who I am, instead of trying to make me what they want me to be, Anonymous.

If you want a happy and successful relationship, you have to accept your partner for who they are. It is that simple, it is that profound. If you love someone, you accept the total person, all who they are, with all their virtues, flaws, shortcomings, and imperfections, their positive and negative traits, and their past and baggage.

True love is based on knowing all their flaws and virtues, ugliness and beauty, lights and shadows, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, and strengths, and loving them anyway.