Forgiveness

Forgiveness isn’t approving what happened. It’s choosing to rise above it, Robin Sharma.

Resentment is like drinking poison and then hoping it will kill your enemies, Nelson Mandela.

Revenge destroys both the victim and the seeker. It also ruins relationships and cause harm to people who were not initially involved.Forgive your partner, especially when s/he is sincerely sorry, willing to change her/himself, and fix the problem.

So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her," John 8:7

We all have flaws, imperfections, and weaknesses. We all make mistakes and screw up sometimes. When you make a mistake, own it, accept it, learn from it, forgive yourself, and finally, let it go.

Life is messy and chaotic, nobody is perfect, and we all hurt each other. Who are we to judge others when we are ourselves seriously flawed. Quite the contrary, we need to forgive with compassion and generosity, move on, and be happy.

Forgiveness provides a door of opportunity for repentance and restoration of the broken relationship. Forgiveness is not approval, but opens the door to encourage change, to own failures and mistakes, learn from them to make us better, and move on forward together.

Forgiveness is also the best gift you can ever give to yourself. You should always forgive or, at least, forget; even when pain and suffering strike, when you have been mocked, offended, ridiculed, betrayed, or even abused, and you find yourself completely caught of guard, panic stricken, confused, and sadden.

This is not a way, it is the only way, because all revenge, retribution, hatred, and violence give rise to further revenge, hatred, and violence in an endless, vicious, and hopeless cycle where there are no winner, only losers, pain, and misery.

Forgiveness brings inner peace, happiness, and healing even though the scars and wounds of our emotional experiences, even trauma, can linger in our hearts for the rest of our lives!

Let these terrible experiences and negative emotions go; it is the right time to let bitterness, hatred, and anger go because holding on is a useless, counterproductive, and nonsensical struggle, when the memory of those negative experiences is regurgitated over and over again, causing you depression, anxiety, and misery. It is hurting you! It is literally killing you!

Forget about the past (you cannot change it anyway), and shift your focus to the future - Just believe in you and in the beauty of your dreams and focus on success, performance, and growth. Create a new future, a new reality by doing what you love, putting in hard work, and learning from past mistakes and setbacks.