Confront the dark parts of yourself, and work to banish them with illumination and forgiveness. Your willingness to wrestle with your demons will cause your angels to sing, August Wilson.
If you have a dream, don’t just sit there. Gather courage to believe that you can succeed and leave no stone unturned to make it a reality, Dr Roopleen.
In other words, once we have clearly established what we really want, we have defined and planned the milestones and tasks, we need to make sure that we are able to stay focused, avoid distractions, and commit ourselves to the tasks ahead, in a continuous and relentless effort, with the conviction that we are more than capable. Do not trust those who talk about love without “thorns” (There are no roses without thorns and no love without sorrows), or success without significant sacrifice and setbacks.
An inspiring example is Abraham Lincoln. He lost eight elections (1832, 1834, 1838, 1840, 1843, 1848, 1854, 1858), his fiancée died from typhoid in 1835, he also failed twice in business, declared bankruptcy, suffered a nervous breakdown, but he also became the president of the United States in 1860. Another good example is Edison. He tried over 6,000 times before perfecting the first electric light bulb.
Perhaps, this is one of my favorite Michael Jordan’s quotes, the best basketball player ever.
If you do not get the desired results: (1) Do not blame others, yourself or feel guilty about it, but focus on solutions. (2) Adapt, be flexible, shift perspective, plans, strategies, and mindsets, and embrace change with a positive attitude. Open the doors to collaboration, communication, and creativity.
We need to accept and take responsibility for our lives, actions, and mistakes. Do not misunderstand me, we are not omnipotent, we are not responsible for everything that happens to us, life is too messy for that, but we are responsible for a good part of it and how we react to it.
I am talking about accepting who we are, our limitations and imperfections so we can regain control of ourselves and our lives, and see things more clearly and realistically.
Mens sana in corpore sano. Eat and sleep well, do exercise, play sports, and live an active lifestyle, but avoid competition. Sports competition can lead to frustration, low self-esteem, and anxiety.
It is important to recognize that our identity is constructed in relation to the social groups to which we belong (sex, nationality, ethnic origin, age, social class, etc.) and in comparison with the social groups that we do not belong to.
Therefore, it makes a lot of sense that we encourage our own group members, value them, listen to them (showing that what they say is important for us), and congratulate them on their successes. As we create a healthy, happy, and productive atmosphere in our family, job, etc. we are also helping ourselves to succeed.