Learn to forgive

Never forget the three powerful resources you always have available to you: love, prayer, and forgiveness, H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

The main victim of anger, bitterness, and resentment is you. Don't let resentment fester inside you - it will lead you to absolutely nothing but pain, misery, and anger. Let it go! Move forward and never look back. However, I am not advocating that we should not learn from the past or we should not try to make the world a better place. I am talking about using non-cooperation, non-violence, and peaceful resistance as an instrument of real and persistent change.

• Recognize with a humble heart that no one is perfect. We all make mistakes and we all have flaws. Today you are the victim, tomorrow you could be the aggressor.

  An eye for an eye, and the whole world would be blind, Mahatma Gandhi.

  

• In short, forgiveness is necessary for everyone because we are all both victims and perpetrators, we all fail on a daily basis, we all both suffer injustice and hurt others with our wicked actions.

  

• Forgive from the heart and truly mean it (let it go), and express it with grace and humility.

• Recognize your own faults and imperfections before you blame and judge others, try to constantly improve, grow, and be the change you want to see in the world.

• There is a fine line between arrogance and confidence, and also between being humble and having a low self-esteem: “Why do I always get myself into so much trouble?” “I am a couch potato,” “I’m stupid,” “Karma is a bitch and I got what I deserve,” “I’m worthless,” etc. Sometimes you need to be assertive and tell the other person to stop his/her behavior.

What I do mean is a new style of communication. It is about being open and sincere. There’s a very good old saying, “Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean.” It is about being assertive and able to defend your rights and needs. However, this is the key point, we should not talk aggressively. Do not manipulate, abuse, humiliate, or bully anyone. It is about having an open and generous heart that knows how to accept and take responsibilities about one’s own flaws and mistakes, forgive others, and focus on solutions.

Stop complaining, blaming others, justifying yourself, and having excuses instead of results and resolving the matter. Focus on solutions, not problems; encourage a constructive dialogue which provides continuous feedback and helps you and everyone else to improve and prepare for any challenges that you are facing.