Fear is a habit; so is self-pity, defeat, anxiety, despair, hopelessness and resignation. You can eliminate all of these negative habits with two simple resolves: I can! and I will!, Napoleon Hill.
Do you have doubts and fears of making wrong decisions and doing the wrong actions which will follow them, trying new things and failing miserably, starting new romantic relationships, etc.? Do you think that you are not good enough for that degree, post or him/her? Do you only try things in your comfort zone where you are completely sure that you will succeed?
If that’s the case, you are experiencing a fear of failure, an irrational and persistent fear of failing or facing uncertainty. It can cause us to do nothing, resist moving forward, and miss out on valuable opportunities, so what can you do about it?
Think positively. Negative results are common outcomes. Failure is inevitable. These experiences are important and invaluable: They help us to learn and grow, they give us experience.
Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want, Dan Stanford.
What is the worst thing that could happen to you? Remember previous experiences and learn from them. Sometimes failure will be disastrous, but on on most occasions may not be so bad after all, not as terrible as you may have expected. You know, if failure does happen, who really cares? Perhaps, you will become bigger, stronger, wiser, more humble and meek, a better person.
Redefine success as “learning as much, loving as much, sharing as much, and enjoying as much, and for as long as we possibly can,” Dr. Myron Wentz.
We only live once, so follow your dreams, enjoy the ride, live life to the fullest, and focus on the positive because there is not much to lose anyway. Choose happiness, integrity, and generosity above all else and move on, Anawim, #justtothepoint.
Have a plan B, a contingency plan in place if everything goes absolutely wrong.
Now, think hard: “What would you do if you were not afraid?,” Spencer Johnson, Who Moved My Cheese. Sometimes you must embrace the unknown and just go for it. The best way to permanently fail at something is to not try, to not even make the attempt. Commit yourself to success with persistence perseverance, hard work, and determination.