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Be positive II

Keep your face always toward the sunshine and shadows will fall behind you, Walt Whitman

Whatever words we utter should be chosen with care for people will hear them and be influenced by them for good or ill, Buddha

Stay positive. Better days are on their way.

Stay positive. Better days are on their way.

A positive explanatory style should be applied when we interact with our friends, family members, and acquaintances. For example, I have a friend that used to tell me “The Blessed Mother will always appear to every fool” whenever I achieved something or did something right.

In other words, he stated that my good results and accomplishments were pure luck, they were basically random events, temporary and external, and therefore, not likely to happen again. This behavior is not advisable. On the contrary, it is better to be optimistic and provide positive explanations which are:

We are -or should be- positive and confident about our possibilities and potential. Besides, we should also feel positive about our friends and family members and see their true potential- no matter how many problems may arise!

If they tell you about a positive outcome, make sure that:

  1. Listen to them actively and empathetically.

    In a gentle way, you can shake the world, Mahatma Gandhi

    In a gentle way, you can shake the world, Mahatma Gandhi

  2. Provide them with active and positive feedback. For example, if your kids have achieved good marks, you could say something like: “I’ve always believed that if you put in the necessary work, results will come/you’re guaranteed to be successful!” “You made it! I am so proud of you. It proves that you are working very hard and making a lot of progress. Let’s celebrate it!”

    If you have a friend who has overcome a complicated situation in his relationship: “I always knew that you should both be together. Your love is so great and sincere that there is no obstacle that you cannot overcome.” If a friend has finally got the perfect job: “You really deserve it! You’re such a hard worker, fast learner, and able to work in a variety of settings and roles.” There are two things people want more than sex and money, recognition and praise, Mary Kay Ash

    There are two things people want more than sex and money, recognition and praise, Mary Kay Ash

  3. Try to maintain eye contact (not too much) and preferably show your joy physically: nod, smile, give him/her a hug or a kiss, etc. Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble, Yehuda Bergc

    Words are singularly the most powerful force available to humanity. We can choose to use this force constructively with words of encouragement, or destructively using words of despair. Words have energy and power with the ability to help, to heal, to hinder, to hurt, to harm, to humiliate and to humble, Yehuda Bergc

Normally, we focus and even bask in the negative side of things. Therefore, it makes a lot of sense to congratulate ourselves on our own and our friends' successes, celebrate them, offer our friends and family members our optimistic and positive view of things, and thank them for helping and supporting us.

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